1 Corinthians 10:12-14
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
What are you addicted to? Really think about it. Everyone has that one thing that they wrestle with daily. Heck, some of us have a few things. But normally, there is one thing that you fight on a regular basis. What is it? And more importantly, are you winning the fight?
I know that I have things that I fight everyday. You can be addicted to anything. Just because you aren't scratching and living in the street with crack dust around your mouth, doesn't make you any less of an addict. Addictions come in all forms. Drugs, Sex, Alcohol, Shopping, Food, People, Negative thoughts, etc. All of these things can be addictions. All of these things are addictions. Are they yours? And if so, are they in check?
Do you understand what "in check" is? "In check" is defined by you having control over your addiction instead of your addiction having control over you. That doesn't mean that you don't still want your vice. It just means that you can say no to your vice. Your vice will always whisper to you. Your vice will always call your name. Always. That is the issue with the one vice. It will always call your name. What changes is that you no longer answer. Somedays you are super strong and will ignore your vice's callings with minimal effort. Other days, you will crave your vice like it is day 1 all over again. But this time you call someone and talk your way through the craving, before you fall back into its trap.
AA has developed a whole network of addiction services to help you kick your habits. All of their programs recognize that at times your addiction can be too much to bear and you have to "phone a friend" to get you through. Only the weak suffer in silence. The strong, the grounded, the winners know that when they are sinking, they need help. From God. From a friend. From someone. Because they know that whatever brief embarrassment that they may feel by asking for help is miniscule compared to the abyss they will be in if they allow the vice to regain control. Think about it: if you fell off a ship into the ocean and you couldn't swim, would you sink quietly to the bottom or would you wave your arms, scream, do whatever is necessary to have someone throw you a lifeline? I hope you'd choose the lifeline.
The 12 Steps (from 12steps.org)
Step 1 - We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable
Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God
Step 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
Step 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
Step 7 - Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings
Step 8 - Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all
Step 9 - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
Step 10 - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out
Step 12 - Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs
Remember that each time you beat back your vice, you gain power. You gain strength. You gain one more day in control.
2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
As I said before, we all have a vice. Did you define yours? That is the first step. I promise the first is the hardest. After that, it gets easier. Try it.