Years ago my child attended a Christian preschool and came home with this question, "Are you a godly wife, mama?" When she asked me this question I had a good laugh and kept it moving. Fast forward 5 years. In hindsight I wish I had stopped to truly reflect on her question. If I had to be honest with myself the answer was "nope. I am not a godly wife." I was a good wife but not a godly wife. Now, Proverbs 31 is something that I actively try to attain... most days. So here are a few questions to help you move a bit closer to Godly Wife status...
1. Can you tell your husband the truth? Can you be honest with him?
2. If your husband came home and said "we are downsizing our lifestyle so that I can pursue the vision that God gave me," would you start packing up the family? Can you follow his leadership and trust him as head of the household?
3. Is your body a place of rest and restoration? This goes beyond just having a great sex life. Can your husband rest when he is home with you?
4. Can you really shut up and let an argument go? Can you? This is the one that most wives have a problem with - including me.
5. Do you encourage your husband to reach even higher than he thought he could? Do you see greatness over your husband life? Do you encourage him to think well of himself?
6. Are you your husband's biggest supporter or greatest obstacle? When he comes to you with a plan, do you cheer him on or do you tell him why it won't work? Can he share his dreams with you?
Great post...it certainly makes me think about my own status as a "Godly Wife"..there are some areas needing improvement...but overall..I would say yes ..I am a Godly wife.
ReplyDeletemore questions may be:
Are you developing a relationship with God? Do you study the word and understand God's plan for marriage and how he defines your role as a wife?
Are you working on and paying attention to your own spiritual and emotional needs. You need to take care of yourself so that you will have more to give to your family and husband.
Any advice for women who want to be Godly Wives but fall short and/or answered "no" to one or more of the above questions?
ReplyDeleteThe question I had to ask myself is what is holding me back from "letting" him lead? Sometimes it is fear of him messing up, fear of being left out of the loop, or fear of losing control. And I've found that i have to give my husband a safe place to fail. He has to be able to make mistakes w/o me saying "see, i knew you were going to mess it up." I have to be there to say "good effort. i bet it will work even better next time." When you give men a safe place to try regardless of the outcome, they will become more comfortable leading.
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